Men's Unrealistic and Not Okay Expectations of Women

Men's Unrealistic and Not Okay Expectations of Women

As a society, we care a lot about women's appearance and their behaviors. We expect them to do certain things to be appealing to men. And that's really messed up. 

Hetero perspective up in here.

1) No Body Hair

Really, this is more regarding pubic hair, leg hair, armpit hair and facial hair. When men say they prefer to have women not have hair on the vajayjay, I'm like "Do you like feeling like you're having sex with a 10 year old girl?" Like that's not okay. Pubic hair is normal. It protects the vadge from bacteria. And waxing feels like your getting murdered in your downstairs area. As far as leg hair goes, why does society tell women that leg hair isn't feminine? It's a pain to shave my legs often and I hate it. Society is messed up. Ugh.

2) We're Good Cooks

(Why is there a baby in a pot? Don't cook babies, please. That's messed up.)

For some odd reason, a lot of men think that women should be good cooks. I'm not a bad cook, but I'm not a great cook. I wasn't raised to focus on my culinary skills. Yeah, my parents were cool and taught me how to fend for myself and cook basic meals, but they were more focused on raising a good human being. So don't expect women to 1) be good cooks, 2) like to cook, 3) and be the chef in your relationship.

3) We Suck Your Dick

(Sorry family)

We're not here to have sex with you. 

If we want to have sex with you, awesome. Love it. Do it. Consensually. But we don't owe you sex and if we don't want to have sex with you, then you have to be cool with that. (Ladies, you too.) 

And during sex, we don't have to suck your dick unless we want to.

4) Have a Certain Body Type

All about that bass? Or about that treble? As a woman, I'm expected to have curves in some places but not others. Supposed to have great legs, great butt, and perfect breasts. That's not a thing. In the real world, you're not gonna get a woman (let alone, a person) who fits your idea of a perfect looking person. So love what you have. See each person for who they are, a beautiful human being.

What I Learned in 2014

What I Learned in 2014

Okay, so this is a little early, but I don't really care because I'm gonna be in New York at the end of 2014, and I won't care about my blog. Holllllller.

1) I'm okay being single.

I spent a majority of 2014 in relationships and these last few months have kind of been glorious. I've gotten to know myself better and really focus on me. I'm super awkward, a wannabe hippie, a secret fashion lover, and someone who doesn't know when to keep her mouth shut. And I don't need to be in a relationship to be happy and I also don't need to be in a relationship to have fun.

2) I love but also hate my body.

Since August, I've lost about 13 lbs, so that's cool. And my body looks so different than a few months ago. And my confidence has been raised. So yay. But I also hate my body because of all its stupid health problems. Like get your act together, body. Stop trying to kill me.

3) Haters gonna hate.

I have some major haters (mostly at work.) I think they hate my peppy attitude and the fact that I don't let them get away with stupid things "just because we've done it like that before." So I've learned to accept that haters gonna hate (and potatoes gonna potate.) I can't do anything about their attitude towards me, so they aren't worth my energy.

4) How to do eyeliner.

This is huge. I finally know how to apply eyeliner and make it look not awful.

5) Men are strange beings.

I knew this before 2014, but I super figured it out this year. Like men will do whatever they want, whenever they want. And most men in their mid-20s have no idea what they want in life. It's super frustrating to be this age and try to date within my own age range because the men my age don't know what they want to do as a career, if they want children, where they want to live. Society tells men that they don't have to decide those things yet but women have to decide very early on. I think mostly because everyone feels like our eggs will be wasted if we don't figure out our lives ASAP.

6) America hates people who aren't 

cisgendered, white, male, straight, Christian, able-bodied, etc.

The most recent election showed me that America really wants to vote people (mostly white men) into office who are anti-choice and pretty much hate people who aren't like them. That's just rude. And then with this Ferguson crap happening, a lot of people are happy with the outcome and that disgusts me. Y'all are mean.