Lessons Learned from Feminist Ryan Gosling

Lesson's Learned from Feminist Ryan Gosling

It's Wednesday, how many rights have been taken away this week?

But really, this is a good one because women's basic rights are questioned or joked about daily. And during the Hobby Lobby ruling, many women (myself included) felt their rights slowly slipping away. Then when my body is regulated, I feel like less and less of a person (at least in the eyes of the government)

"I had the chance to pull together a cabinet, and all the applicants seemed to be men… I went to a number of women's groups and said, 'Can you help us find folks?' and they brought us whole binders full of women." Thanks Mitt Romney. Women should be kept in binders and the reason they aren't applying for political positions shouldn't be examined.

Men who can't get boners is more important (and justifiable) than not pushing unnecessary medical exams on women who seek to have an abortion. The war on women is a real thing. There isn't a war on your flaccid penis though.

Merry Christmas. Christmas Break. No. Stop. Have a good day. That is all.

Abs.

I mean, yes means yes. And no means no. Consent isn't a blurred line.

So, I love that Feminist Ryan Gosling raised awareness of feminism in a fun manner and brought it to pop culture. But I so wish that we had a female version of feminist Ryan Gosling because I feel that this reiterates the idea that people only pay attention to things when men say it, even if Ryan actually didn't say these things.

This is not a Funny Blog Post

If you came here looking for my usual hahahaha funny blog post, my apologies, I'm really not feeling the funny right now.

I'm in such a weird place in my life right now. I'm so pessimistic about my romantic outlooks, pretty anti-men right now, and in general, just angry at the world. Which I think is a totally okay way to feel.

I know it seems really juvenile and petty to be so over love at the age of 24, but the last year has been really rough on me. I got out of a relationship with a boy after we fought for months over me not wanting to have kids. He treated my opinions about it like crap. He said that I was overthinking it and that raising children isn't as hard as I was making it out to be. Which is really silly because raising kids is hard, ask any parent that. And then he contacts me recently saying that he isn't sure why he fought me so hard about that because he actually doesn't want kids. And that he's the perfect SO for me and lalalalala. Harassment isn't a sexy thing. That relationship really screwed me up. And I still haven't gotten over how awful it was.

So that happened. I had a man treat me like crap when he agreed with me. Then I decided that I needed to get out into the dating world again. So I did and I was completely straight forward and said I didn't want kids. It was all cool. But now I'm single again because I don't want kids. I don't want to have love goblins, so obviously that is a deal breaker and makes me undateable. And I really don't think I will ever find anyone who accepts me for who I am because I'm a strong woman who is educated, outspoken, and independent. Oh, and that I don't want to push a human being out of my vagina. To find a man who is not threatened by me and doesn't want kids will be nearly impossible. So I guess I just need to accept that.

I've just really been hurt by men and I am done with it. There is a tragic flaw in me and it's my want to not be a mother. All of this has just made me feel like crap and that I'm pretty worthless in the significant other department. Which sucks a lot because I probably am not. And then when people say that I'll find someone, I get so upset about that. Because will I? Where is this magical person? Everyone I know wants kids, so I'm pretty sure I'm gonna be alone. I'm just really over all of this love crap. Because it's really stupid and hurts so much.

I'm okay with being #ForeverAlone

First, I must acknowledge that my ex recently contacted me, so I'm feeling pretty negative about love, but it's whatever. And I guess overall, I'm feeling very pessimistic about men as a romantic interest. To find a man who supports my anti-kid, career driven self is gonna be rough and I've had little luck so far.  I do want to find that one person who I can spend my life with, but I really don't think that will happen. A lot of men want children and I just can't give them that. So I have few options for my love life. And that's fine.

I know that #ForeverAlone is a thing and it's supposed to be funny, but I got to thinking about it. I'm okay with being #ForeverAlone. Yes, I want to have a husband and be a wife, but I'm fine not being a wife. I'm really happy with myself and feeling super duper confident in my life choices as of right now, so I don't need my identity to depend on someone else. Yeah, it'd be super awesome to share my life with someone, but if it doesn't happen, it's all good.

Putting effort into a relationship is hard, especially when that relationship ends and you have to start the process over again. I put a lot of effort into my relationships, so it's exhausting when it doesn't work out, so again, it's cool if I get to just have a puppy family. Because puppies are awesome.

And it's kind of horrifying, the thought of being married. Because if you get married, you can get divorced. Everyone in my family has been divorced. And I'm not exaggerating. Everyone. So, I have just been around that for my entire life. That marriage isn't a forever thing and is easily thrown away. And I don't want to get divorced so the easiest way to follow through with that is to not get married. So, I guess I'm just in this place in my life right now where I'm fine not getting married and being forever alone because I won't get hurt anymore. And I can be my own person.

I don't even know what this blog post was about...